Our mind is a powerful thing, and we still don’t fully understand just how powerful it is, nor how It works. Our minds create our reality and this law is proven daily when you think about a great idea and then go do it.
Our mind also creates limits and keeps us small and safe in our comfort zone. There are three common mindset limits to living joyfully that are responsible for a lot of the suffering we face in our personal lives.
Doubt, drama, and disbelief… they all have something in common. Besides the starting letter, do you wonder what their commonality is?
As someone who has experienced all of them, either all at once, or on separate occasions, I have wondered why they show up together and how to transmute them into better feelings, experiences, and relationships.
The chart above summarizes what they all have in common.
The underlying theme is skepticism which comes from fear.
Let’s call it FEAR. BASED. THINKING.
All three of these things that we can experience, are limiting your own ability to have joy, be joyful, and experience a joyful life by creating and perpetuating limiting beliefs.
Let’s dig in deeper.
Drama as a limit to joy
Drama occurs as a mindset limit to living joyfully because it is incredibly hard to shake.
We all know those super dramatic people, the ones we call toxic and debate about cutting out or ghosting from our life under the justification of it’s for my mental health.
What you don’t know, is that using toxic people as an excuse for your own drama is perpetuating that limiting belief.
And more than that, cutting someone out of your life isn’t a solution to the drama cycle.
If you cut someone out of your life because they’re toxic, but then go tell your group of friends that you’ve cut this person out and how you’re better off without them, you’re repeating the drama cycle.
You’re talking about the thing you did.
If you truly knew that this was the best for you, you wouldn’t have a need to go discuss it with your friends.
Talking about the decisions you’re making is either to inflate your ego, or to repeat a pattern that you’re stuck in.
Trust me when I say, I was the person cutting people off, and then the one being cut off. If you don’t look at your own drama patterns, then you’ll find drama recurring in your life.
Cutting someone else out isn’t a solution. Working on your mindset is.
Doubt as a limit to joy
“I don’t think it’s possible, my friend knows someone who did that and it turned out to be a scam”
“I can’t follow my dreams, I have no experience doing _____ and I wouldn’t get hired doing it anyways. Plus I still don’t know what I want to do”
“I’m so tired of trying! I try so hard and still don’t get anywhere! Why aren’t my dreams manifesting?”
These are all examples of language centred around a lack of trust.
We often use doubt as a reason why we can’t do things. We bring in other people’s experiences and say well I can’t because of X Y Z. But that’s not true, it’s your mind telling you all these things that will keep you safe.
It’s your mind trying to keep you small so you won’t grow past the limits it has set for you.
When your mind is in control, your ego is high on power and power comes from control.
Ask yourself these three questions to reveal the pattern of doubt.
- Where is my attachment to fear?
- What am I really afraid of? How have I experienced this and conquered it before?
- When have I felt doubt and done it anyways?
The hardest part of doing something new is to START. This is what my grandfather used to say, which couldn’t be more true.
Doubt is like the person at the bar checking your ID. They’re asking you “are you sure you want to go in there? The guys are pigs, and everyone is hotter than you.”
Are you sure you want to have that experience because you’ve never done it before. Are you sure you want to risk putting your heart on your sleeve, it may get crushed.
How much risk are you willing to take in order to accomplish what you’re trying to? Where are you limiting yourself?
You will live a more joyful life if you learn to see doubt as a bodyguard and acknowledge it. It’s not truth. It just is like a sassy gatekeeper.
Remember …
What you put out into the world is what you get back. be mindful of that.
xo
kristy.