Fear, criticism, judgement, assumptions – all of these characterize the limitations of beliefs, also called limiting beliefs.
Throughout this year of miraculous blessings, I’ve learned so much about myself through personal development programs.
In one of the sessions, the topic was limiting beliefs and how to free yourself from them.
As a philosopher in love with consciousness, the idea of holding beliefs that are based on false conclusions is already known to me. The thing that I learned through this session, is how to remove them (ironically I knew it intuitively too).
Top 3 Limiting Beliefs
A lot of beliefs we hold as adults are formed in childhood. These beliefs are formed as a young child making conclusions based on what they can see happening.
When delving into beliefs there are a couple things to know.
- Beliefs are formed based on what we can see happening
- An event does not create a belief, your mind does.
- Beliefs are created through your consciousness.
- Your consciousness experiences an event and draws a conclusion based on emotions and understanding of yourself and the world.
1. I am not good enough
The first of the top limiting beliefs is I am not good enough. This belief is formed when a parents or caregiver projects criticism.
Statements such as “why would you do that?” and “how could you do that” create the idea in a young child that they are not good enough.
What the young child doesn’t know is that these statements are not directed at them, but at their actions.
In order to heal this belief, you can ask yourself what another valid interpretation of the situation could be. Once your inner child (as an adult observing your child consciousness) becomes aware that their conclusion is not the only conclusion the belief lessens.
2. I am not worthy
The second most common limiting belief is I am not worthy. This belief comes from being ignored, or yelled at for things that were not your fault as a child.
For me, this belief shows up while trying to understand why my sister got more attention than me. Despite my own limitations and needs as a child, she still got more attention.
The child in me gets so angry. She says I even broke my two front teeth at 9 years old and my sister’s depression still mattered more than me?! This makes no sense.
And so this example is perfect for showing the belief of I’m not worthy of ______.
The process of removing this belief is through changing your perspective on the conclusion this 9 year old drew.
Another valid interpretation is;
- Just because she got more attention does not make me less worthy.
- You are strong and healthy, you didn’t need as much attention as others.
- My parents did the best with what they knew.
- Blaming my sister’s struggles for my issues is not the solution.
After reading through these other conclusions, the belief of not being worthy loosens. The strength of that belief is lessened because this child consciousness now knows that there are other perspectives.
3. Life is hard and requires struggle
For the last limiting belief, instead of another that shows up in child consciousness, I chose one that we often adopt as adults.
Going through life, it’s common to lose the optimism of your child self, and so you begin to adopt pessimism and believe that there is no God, higher power, or anything good in life.
That belief becomes a limitation in areas of financial freedom, personal confidence, and romantic relationships. These are also the most common areas of improvement and direction that adults seek help in the spiritual community for.
When you think of a coach — Tony Robbins, Wayne Dyer, or anyone who is inspirational in your mind, Gary Vee or Oprah, all of these people have touched on finance, romance, and confidence.
So let’s do the same thing we did with child consciousness beliefs and begin to disentangle this belief.
Other possible conclusions include;
- Sometimes I struggle in life.
- My life is easy when I focus on the good things
- It’s easier to focus on what is working that what I am struggling with.
- Struggle is part of life, but I choose to see the lesson in each struggle and turn my weakness into personal power.
Each one of these statements shows a different emotion within them. When you begin to change your language, your consciousness also begins to change.
Remember…
Beliefs are thoughts that you repeatedly think, that is one reason affirmations work really well.
Consciousness plays a large role in removing limiting beliefs, or better yet false beliefs.
If you’re new to the idea of consciousness, I recommend reading about universal consciousness and beginning there.
xo kristy