Hey there! Today’s ramblings are not completely social justice themed, I am conflicted on that topic which I will write about tomorrow, in the mean time, enjoy my relationship advice!
My friend and I were discussing how a person becomes attracted to someone, especially when they are completely oblivious of chemistry or attraction between friends. This is a widely hated on thing coined by guys as the “friend-zone”. But I’ve figured it out. Attraction is based on fantasy. The less interested a man is in me, the more I wonder what it would be like to have him, his interest and be with him. The more I say no to men I don’t find attractive, the more attractive of a fantasy I become, theoretically.
There you have it. If you are attracted to someone, you’ve probably fantasized about them. The trick that I’ve learned is to tell the person you’re attracted to them and then continue as if nothing has changed, because when a person likes you, they like everything that makes up you; hobbies, quirks, stupid laughs, vices and the other adorable things we do that make us who we are. Yes, you can be insecure and someone will still like you, just get past your insecurities and realize that being comfortable with your perceived weirdness is more attractive than conforming to something that makes you uncomfortable in the end.
And yes, selfish people are more attractive. Yes.
Thanks for reading, stay true, stay weird. xo.